By Shanti Gowans (one of my mentors)
Many people think that by gathering more stuff, they'll finally find happiness. However, what if that isn't the case? Often, you can find true happiness right now, in this moment, simply by letting go. Here are some suggestions of things you could let go of, that will make you a happier, more peaceful person, by the time you go to bed tonight.
Let go of the need to impress others
Most human beings care about what other people think of them. After all, we are naturally social creatures.
However, if you find yourself spending too much of your time, money or energy trying to impress other people and get their approval, you're not being true to yourself.
There's no need to try and be something you're not, because who you are right now is wonderful and excellent.
Focus instead on living the most authentic version of yourself. When you fully embrace who you are and share it with others, you'll find that people will appreciate how real you are and will love you for that.
Let go of the need to be right
Sometimes when we feel we've been mistreated or misunderstood by someone, we can get caught up wanting that person to admit they've wronged us. And we want an apology, or at least an acknowledgement that we are right and they're wrong.
The problem is, that not all human beings see things from the same perspective. In your world, you're right, but in their world, so are they.
There are definitely times where an apology is necessary. But at most other times, rather than allowing feelings of negativity to take root inside you and start spilling over into other areas of your life, it could be better to ask yourself: "Do I want to be right? Or do I want to be happy?"
Often it's just our ego that keeps us holding onto past resentments and upsets. Instead, consider
letting go of the desire to be right and you'll find you'll instantly restore happiness and contentment in your life.
Let go of the desire to gossip
You may have heard that gossip is just a cheap way to make yourself feel good, and surely we would have to agree? We all know that being negative about other people is, well, not so good. And, when the people around you are doing it, it can be easy to slip into doing it, too!
Consider though, that the quality of your life depends on the quality of the conversations you have. If you want to live a more fulfilling life, start by embracing the power of your words. Your voice is powerful! And what you have to say makes a difference. Be committed to having more positive conversations about things that matter, and not bringing people down, and you'll be surprised how quickly you'll brighten your outlook on life.
Let go of the past
It's easy to dwell on the past, especially when the future is so unknown. Looking to the past can feel safe - we know what has happened and we know what we could do to change things, if only we had the chance. The truth is, though, that you never will have the chance to change the past. Not unless you invent a time machine.
Your past has served its purpose. It has brought you to the place you are today and made you the person you are now. And who you are right now is absolutely wonderful and excellent. Be grateful for your experiences, and know that 'now' is all you have. So do your best to enjoy each moment. Give yourself the gift of being present!
Be blessed. With love, Shanti